I believe that there's no such thing as a perfect relationship. Its not always that couples live happily ever after. The fights, arguments, and break ups are inevitable so these things normally happen to them. But why does it come to a point that couples hurt each other too much?
According to an article entitled Enlightened Living by Michael J. Formica, abusive relationships are fairly simple. They are driven by insecurity, fear that feeds that insecurity, and expectation of inconsistency, both real and perceived.
Another article from safe.unc.edu entitled "Abusive Relationships" stated that there are four phases of the abuse cycle: the calm phase, the tension building phase, abusive incident, and reconciliation or making up. Click on the link below to view the cycle.
I remember the issue about the Chris Brown and Rihanna assault. It was a dismay to the people and had a bad effect on their career and identity. But after some time, news about them getting back together, shocked the world.
In the Jan.31 issue of the Rolling Stone magazine, after officially reuniting with Brown, Rihanna told contributing editor Josh Eells, " I decided it was more important for me to be happy. I wasn't going to let anybody's opinion get in the way of that. Even if it's a mistake, it's my mistake.After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I'd rather just live my truth and backlash. I can handle it."
Upon reading this statement from a blog entitled "Rihanna and Chris Brown are proof that domestic violence is everyone's business" by Michelle Bernard in washingtonpost.com, I was thinking like "why, Rihanna? you could have just broke up with him for good 'cause he still might hurt you again."
This also made me think, "Why do women who experienced abuse tend to go back to that abusive relationship? Is it just because of love?"
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